Matthew 14:1-12

The Prophet Who Let Them Take His Head

Ross Yamamoto, August 9, 2026, 55 min From the Matthew series

John the Baptist lost his head because he loved Jesus more than his own life. In Matthew 14:1-12, John tells Herod Antipas that taking his brother’s wife is against God’s law and dies for it. John called himself the friend of the bridegroom, and his whole life shows what wholehearted love for Jesus costs and why it is worth it.

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Message notes

Pastor Ross Yamamoto calls this his favorite passage in the Gospels, and he spends nearly half the message setting up the man at its center. He names two people in the Bible he wants to be like: Mary of Bethany, always at Jesus’ feet, and John the Baptist. They look like opposites, but Ross says they are the same person in different roles.

The key is John 3:29. When John’s disciples complain that the crowds are going to Jesus instead, John answers with a wedding picture. He is the friend of the bridegroom, and his joy is complete when he hears the bridegroom’s voice. “John lived this way because he was in love.” His fasting, his preaching and finally his death came from that love, and by the time Herod killed him, John had already died to himself. Ross pushes back on the idea that John was extreme or unbalanced: “I don’t see any scripture on balance when it comes to loving Jesus.” Jesus said John was no reed swayed by the wind and called him more than a prophet.

Ross connects John to Malachi’s promised Elijah, who broke 400 years of prophetic silence to prepare the way for Jesus. He believes believers in the days ahead will need John’s resolve, and he reads Jesus’ words in Matthew 10 about bringing a sword, not peace. He gives recent examples of people losing jobs or being removed for speaking about their faith, and says the church standing on God’s word is not the church becoming political.

Then he reads Matthew 14:1-12. Herod Antipas, a son of Herod the Great, hears about Jesus and thinks John has risen from the dead. “This is what a guilty conscience will do to you.” Ross pauses to call anyone carrying unconfessed sin to confess and repent, quoting James 5:16 and Acts 3:19. John was jailed for telling Herod it was not lawful to have Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife. Because the Herods claimed to be Jews, John was holding Herod to the law, not to his own opinion. Ross quotes Martin Luther King Jr.’s letter on just and unjust laws.

He closes with church history, from Isaiah to Peter, and Luke 14:33 on counting the cost. In a story about a Marine recruiter at a 1960s college fair, the longest line formed for the hardest calling, because people want a mission worth living and dying for. “If you are a true Christ follower, you have nothing left to lose.”

From the message

John lived this way because he was in love.

Ross Yamamoto Watch this moment, at (6:06)

I don’t see any scripture on balance when it comes to loving Jesus.

Ross Yamamoto Watch this moment, at (12:00)

This is what a guilty conscience will do to you.

Ross Yamamoto Watch this moment, at (29:32)

If you are a true Christ follower, you have nothing left to lose.

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Life Group discussion guide

The Prophet Who Let Them Take His Head, Matthew 14:1-12. August 9, 2026.

Start here

Who is someone you admire because they would not bend on what they believed, even when it cost them?

Read Matthew 14:1-12

Open your Bibles and read it out loud together before you start.

What does it say?

  1. In Matthew 14:1-2, what does Herod conclude when he hears about Jesus, and why?

  2. According to verses 3-4, why was John in prison, and what exactly had he been saying to Herod?

  3. What happens at Herod’s birthday in verses 6-11, and what do John’s disciples do afterward in verse 12?

What does it mean?

  1. In John 3:29-30, John calls himself the friend of the bridegroom and says Jesus must become greater. How does that explain the way John lived and died?

  2. Jesus asks the crowd whether they went out to see a reed swayed by the wind (Matthew 11:7-9). What was he saying about John?

  3. Pastor Ross pointed out that Herod claimed to be a Jew, so his marriage broke the law in Leviticus 18. Why does that matter for when and how believers speak up?

What do we do with it?

  1. Herod’s guilty conscience left him fearful and superstitious. Is there something you need to confess to a trusted friend this week so you can be free (James 5:16)?

  2. Where are you most tempted to bend like a reed to keep your job, your reputation or your relationships comfortable?

  3. Jesus says anyone who does not give up everything cannot be his disciple (Luke 14:33). What would counting the cost look like in your schedule, your money or your comfort this month?

Pray

Pray for a love for Jesus like John’s, that finds joy in hearing the bridegroom’s voice, and for grace to stand firm with courage when following Jesus costs you something.

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